I have visitation rights to my kid, but I have not seen her in three years?

You need to go back to court for custody of her due to parental alienation. Every time you do not have your court appointed visitation time with her due to your ex keeping her away from you, you need to contact the pd to get an escort to her home. If she has taken off and you no longer know where she is, contact missing and exploited children and open a case of parental abduction. Once in court again she will have some explaining to do if they even can find her. If they can't they may grant you full custody of her and put a warrant out for her arrest.